“It’s by your side I make home.”
Hello my beautiful readers, I have been MIA for a while but I have been so swamped of late feeling like deflated balloon depleted of any energy. However, on a positive note the hubby and I celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary on Saturday. Honestly, if you ask me I still don’t know how I (we??) lasted that long. I am not going to bore you with a long, winding story about how we met and how our love story started but one thing is this–I really do have high expectations when it comes to love and marriage. And when I say high expectations, I do not mean sweeping gestures of romance all the time, splashing cash on each other and other such inane material drivel.
The loveliest couple I have ever met and known is my awesome grandparents. (You can read their story here). This post, on the other hand, is not a long letter confessing my undying love to him but rather a reflection on this institution (you can ridicule it all you want but at the end of the day for me it is about this: would you rather let some stranger hold your hand and your head when you are all old and wrinkly or someone who knows you like shadow??)
Marriage is a lot of hard work. At times, I wish it came with a manual. Sometimes, it is a slow dance of waltz where you forget the world and the troubles that life bestows upon you. And there are times when it is a dance with swords where you unleash your anger, your insecurities and your negatives at each other and still are able to get up the next day and dance to a different tune. With each other of course.
My hubby is not my knight in shining armor. Instead, he is someone who gives me wings. He and I both know that I am the Queen B who can handle any hitch life throws and I can do it because of the confidence and faith he shows in me. It is important that couples realise that they are equal. Equally to be patted on back for all the successes and equally to be held responsible for all the pitfalls.
As cliched as it sounds, it is about the small things that makes a whole lot of difference. Marriage is not 24/7 romance but the fact that you can find joy and happiness in the most mundane things whether it is weekly grocery shopping or cooking with each other.
It is important to let go. Women especially need to remember this. (I definitely do), We tend to bottle up every single thing, our anger, a slight, a silly comment and unleash it with a lot of wrath when the opportunity comes. But I am learning that it is important to let go of the trivial because it must have been trivial if it did not kill you and end your world. So letting it go for real is important for your sanity for your better half’s sanity and your relationship.
Never forget self-love or loving yourself. It is not selfishness; the only relation that matters above everything else is the one you have with yourself. It is pure. It is unadulterated. Self love is highest form of worship. My hubby and my sis always teach me this that if I cannot love myself I cannot actually love my loved ones.
The bottom line is there is no magic pill for a happy marriage or relationship. It simply is about loving, understanding and not taking it all for granted 🙂
Hope you enjoyed this post on relationships. Have a great rest of the week. Do show me your love with your likes and comments and don’t forget to follow me 🙂