Every girl matters

I never thought I would write this post so early in my journey as a mom. But because there’s a fresh debate on sex-selective abortion in UK, I am beginning to ponder what it means to be a girl and how should I raise my daughter in a world where even now women are considered as weaker sex and a liability of sorts.

Abortion is a contentious and divisive issue however as a feminist it mortifies me that even at this age and date we live in a society where girls are not even given a chance to live and are killed before life itself solely because of their gender. This blog very succinctly explains the whole dilemma with sex-selective abortions in UK.

Image Via Google Images

Image Via Google Images

Many in the UK are scared to openly discuss about this issue for the fear of seeming like a racist. I firmly don’t think it is a race or culture issue, female feticide is oppression of the worst kind and it transcends the boundary of race and culture. Coming back to my dilemma; here are few things I wish to tell my daughter in the hope that she doesn’t feel like an unwelcome gender.

  • Never underestimate yourself. Throughout life self doubt may plague you but do not underestimate yourself.
  • To quote Aibileen Clark (from The Help), “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”
  • Life will get you down sometimes. Get up, breathe and move on.
  • Be a feminist. They are not man-haters or people-haters as they say. Be a feminist, wear the damn high heels, that lipstick, that awesome dress but do it for yourself not for anyone else.
  • People would always try to put you in a box. You don’t have to be in a box you are a person not someone’s pet.
  • Travel. It is the best education you will ever get.
  • Mix with people from all races and backgrounds. Each one will teach you something.
  • Never be afraid to use your voice.
  • Always be yourself.
  • Take pride in your gender. Men and women are different only biologically. Don’t let social differences shape you.
  • Read. Move. Dance. Love.
  • Make mistakes. It’s okay, that’s how you learn.
  • Learn one sport.
  • Never shrink yourself; never make yourself smaller.
  • You are second to none.
  • You matter. Every Girl Matters.

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  1. Kuenzang Choden
    February 26, 2015 / 8:00 am

    I can share this with my daughter 🙂 Sometimes we forget the simplest things, thank you for the reminder. I shall print this and keep myself reminded on what to tell my daughter 🙂

    • February 27, 2015 / 5:07 pm

      Thanks Kuenzang. I am glad you found it useful 🙂

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