Recently, a LA Playboy model Dani Mathers came under fire (and some) for snap chatting an image of an unknown bystander. She captioned it “If I can’t unsee this then you can’t either”. And then she goes on covering her mouth in mockery. Her photo is under investigation and she has since lost her modelling role as well as several lucrative deals. The whole fracas made me wonder, why as a society are we so obsessed with thinness?
If you follow my blog and social media accounts you would know I am a gym rat. However, my reasons for working out and staying healthy is different. To find what other women feel, I spoke to three different women to find out what is healthy and what is fitness.
US based Arjabi is a fitness guru like no one else. Her training videos will kick your butt and then some more. You can check out her blog here.
“Three years ago when I stepped into the gym to workout, like any other newbie gym intimidation crept in. I kind of caved in some way or the other , totally unsure of what to do and how to do it. I remember this one incident where I was using overhead press machine and my back was not rested on the bench completely and somebody came and told me I would hurt myself. I was embarrassed , yet acted as if I am completely oblivious to the situation I was in- Thats how slowly yet steadily, I crawled and started my fitness journey. I worked out regularly and saw the scale budge rapidly in the beginning and 30 lbs less in about a year’s time wasn’t less than a feat,but after that I plateaued so if it was just the scale that defined my notion of fitness, I prolly would have given up long time back.It isn’t what kept me going. Its the air of confidence that fitness had instilled in me. Its as if I was looking at my image in a new light.Its the strength and endurance improvement. Its the life lesson about patience and dedication. Three years later,things I couldnt do in the past, I do with ease now. There is so much to learn , so much to grow and endless avenues to unravel and fitness is my biggest teacher. I might not be size zero nor strongest of all but I am getting stronger by the day and thats all that matters. So, fitness if I have to sum up is a friend that taught me to leap when I was barely crawling, the strict teacher who disciplined me to work harder, the mentor who taught me to strive to be better than I am today. So I am forever thankful!”
Idaho based working mum, Shilpa’s instagram page gives me serious fitness envy. If weekly exercising is not enough, her weekend activities comprising hiking, walking and doing other activities with her family will seriously help you re-consider your fitness goals.
“Being fit means being fit, and not being fat or thin or anything like that. People exercise to have a fit body and to avoid any health issues. For me exercise is my “me” time. I love that and can’t let go of it ever as it helps build my confidence and let out any stress. It doesn’t matter what body you have, all that matters is you are exercising. I get so infuriated by all the body shaming and most of it is imbibed by marketing a the body image. You don’t have to go zero figure to be fit, neither an anorexic person is fit. It doesn’t matter what size you are, you don’t have to be a hot figure to be working out. YOU WORKOUT TO BE FIT, period.”
Mridula, my beloved friend and another working mama, is one determined person. Her consistency and go-get attitude is something I always look up to.
“Fitness means a lifestyle change for me, it means me taking control of my life again and feeling and looking like a better version of me not just for my family but for myself
I want to be able to look at myself and say, yeah you look fit girl, you look toned and healthy. I know I will never be skinny so that’s the best I can do :). ”
I often quip that I only workout for getting back into my pre baby dresses. The Red dress I have worn here was last worn here. Whilst I admit, vanity is one of the reasons it is not the only one or for that matter the most important. I workout because I want to honour this beautiful body I have got, which helped me make another human being, which helped me deliver it and which helped me to nourish it as well. The benefits of regular exercise is more than just having a size zero, it makes you stronger, healthier and dare I say happier. Exercise is the best stress buster and cheapest therapy.
At the same time, I also want my daughter to not have the same body images issues I had growing up and understand the beauty and strength of her body. giving up hence is not an option.
When I hear news like the Playboy one it makes me angry not only was it a gross violation of someone’s privacy but claims that unless you are pathetically thin and anorexic you are not fit or beautiful. This mentality has to change. And I am glad people stood up and made the right noises against the model because we all know we have enough critiques in this world and not enough encouragers.
So, why do you work out? Do you think fitness is only about thinness or is strong really the new sexy. Do let me know your thoughts.
I would like to thank my friends featured here with all the gratitude. Thanks for taking time for me and I hope you appreciate my little effort.
Thank you for reading. Hope you liked my post on fitness and body shaming. Have a great and healthy week ahead 🙂