A New Year sparks a great enthusiasm to hit the gym and get fit. I am no different, I do want to get fit (not just skinny) but being a busy mum who is working part time and studying part time, I sometimes do not have the sufficient time to put aside to exercise (#notproudmoment). However, I have mentioned many times in this blog that exercising even 30 minutes a day boosts my spirit and mood like nothing else. So, without further ado here are my fitness resolutions for this year—a year during which I will be working on myself.

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Start Running: One of my long term goals is to run a half marathon. Blame it on all my fit mamma friends who have run marathons like it is no body’s business; I too have got bitten by the running bug. However, there is one small issue I am scared of running. I love yoga and weight training but ask me to run, some strange fear grips me. Truth be told, running intimidates me. So to kick start this resolution, I have started the Couch to 5K programme. It gently eases you to running and is a great programme to follow for even the most time pressed individual.

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Image Via: Google

Get back to the yoga mat: Ever since having my baby, I have been quite irregular with my yoga practice. However, I hope to change that and start regular yoga sessions soon. Good bye back pain and insomnia. Hurray!!

Training the brain: Fitness is definitely not restricted to just physical aspect but mental too. While studying and preparing for my exams later this year is greatly challenging my brains, I also hope to learn a new language. This is something I plan each year hopefully writing this down in public domain will motivate me to get going.

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Hula hooping: Every year, I try to learn something new to add on to my exercise repertoire. Not that I master anything but doing a range of exercises is a must not just because my body quickly gets used to one form but also because it makes exercising fun. Hula hooping is something I have wanted to do for a long time but never got to do. I recently read that hula hooping can help mums to get rid of their mummy tummy and give them a mean, tough core. This has given me the final push. And I must say it is FUN!!

Meditation: Although I have been learning yoga for almost three years now, I have never got around to properly learning the art of meditation. Apparently, I am one those unfortunate people who cannot “quiet” their mind. I am slightly ashamed to admit that I can be a bit of worrier and a control freak; hence this year I am consciously learning to let go and accept that nothing is in my control. If I can manage to do even 20 minutes of meditation each day, I will consider this year to be a success.

So, these are my resolutions which will hopefully make me a fitter person not just physically but mentally and emotionally too 🙂

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This New Year’s Eve, I had my first party ever since my daughter’s arrival. I have always been a very confident and bold person. Working as a journalist before baby meant meeting and interacting with people from all walks of life—the biggest attraction of that job. Needless to say, I was a very sociable person; the one with “chutzpah” as my friends and hubby often says. But at that moment, as I scanned the room quietly, approaching my friends rather cautiously hoping that they will not notice the dribble on my dress, I felt an emotion completely foreign to me—I felt lost. I still cannot fathom why I felt the way I felt. But at that moment something hit me rather hard.

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Image Via Google Images

The reality is that motherhood, especially if you are a first time mom, can be a very lonely journey. I must say that I have my hubby’s unflinching support. I was also lucky to have my parents and in-laws over during the initial months but despite that I have and feel so lonely. It is a loneliness that I never contemplated about before the little one. I was so naïve to think that babies are so easy.   I did not really know that I would be responsible for every single thing for my daughter. The enormousness of this responsibility sometimes leaves me utterly clueless and slightly terrified.

As my friends sat there, regaling stories about developments in their career and life, I saw myself nodding with a meaningless grin plastered on my face.  What do I tell them, when they talk of career and their busy work that there are days when I have not done anything except nursing and cleaning my darling little one? I wanted to say something witty and important just to make sure they do no disregard me as brain dead or worse assume that I am invisible because I am a mom.

Invisible—that’s what I feel I am most days. I make a point to go out every day not just because the little lady loves it but because I can at least hope to bump into someone and have a conversation. I smile and nod at almost everyone hoping just for an adult conversation; a conversation without the mention of poop, diapers and dribble.

There are days when I argue with the hubby for no reason. His crime—he goes out to work. As ungrateful and petulant it sounds, I feel jealous that he gets to go out. I know he is not partying but earning the all important bread, butter and our tasty omelet but at times this loneliness manifests and turns you into a completely thankless person.

I also wonder what happens to friendships when you become a Mom? It is surprising how your social life takes a back seat as some friends are too willing to drop you because they do not want the unwelcoming drama of someone’s baby. Even those with babies do not have time to meet because perhaps they are going through their cycle of emotions.

It is strange and paradoxical that motherhood makes you stronger and vulnerable. Yes, I do cherish from the bottom of my heart to see my baby thriving but I would not deny that this loss of identity perplexes me. I am also thankful that in this wonderfully challenging journey, I at least have my hubby’s support who not only gives me time out but actually encourages it. I guess, at the end of the day what matters is just that.

I don’t know how my days will pan out from now on but I sure do not need anyone’s pity or sympathy just an adult conversation and perhaps a glass of Chardonnay.

“Fashion is the armor to survive the reality of everyday life.” — Bill Cunningham

Learning the fine act of balancing things is certainly the toughest thing I have learnt as a new mum. Among all the daily tasks, things to be done, lists and baby duties it is natural one forgets about oneself and things like style and fashion takes a back seat. However, I firmly believe that individuality is one thing that I must teach my little one and as I have always stated styling is one definite and perhaps the most personal stamp of individuality. Here, I share with you style lessons that I’ve learnt after the birth of my darling daughter.

Make an effort: 

When you are exhausted beyond words it is but natural to let go. But one thing I’ve experienced is that sitting all day in my yoga pants however comfortable it seems just leaves me feeling miserable. Taking even ten minutes to put on some kohl, lipstick or a nice, freshly washed t-shirt is happiness in an instant. It brings back my confidence and puts a spring in my step. For a pit stop to the shops to get our weekly shopping done; I chose to wear this oldie but goldie of a floral dress and a long cardigan. It is normcore yet with a feminine twist.

postpartum fashion

Don’t throw away your old wardrobe:

Do not get disheartened and simply throw your old clothes thinking you will never be able to fit. Go through your wardrobe with a fine tooth comb, there would be things like a shirt which can be used for layering. Pack your favourite items because you will eventually fit in them.

Recycle and re-style your old stuff:

Breathe some new life to your old clothes by re-styling and recycling. Your old shirts, cardigans and sweat shirts are great for adding a layer and perfect to hide any sins. When picking new things, looks for elasticated waist–it is an invention that I thank God for every day. Get some inexpensive t-shirts in a plethora of colours to mix with things in your wardrobe.

Persevere and don’t give up:

Yes your little one will spit on you and cover you with dribble. But that does not mean you have to give up dressing up. As stated in the first point, dressing up is not just for vanity but for confidence. And if you can achieve some happiness with something as simple as a dress then why not? It is definitely worth it.

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This year has been euphoric, challenging, extremely blessed yet tiring for me. Sartorially speaking, pregnancy and post-pregnancy have been a period of accepting my ever-changing body and learning how to dress without forgoing style and comfort. Here, I take a trip down the memory lane to showcase that while pregnancy and (in my case) post-pregnancy can be an extremely confusing time for us non-celebrity moms, it need not be too difficult if we accept and respect what our bodies have done and continue to do taking care of a brand new life.

I started this year with this lovely white number. I was almost five months pregnant by this time and I loved every aspect of it. I was probably one of those few women who enjoyed pregnancy.

Little White Dress style

As my pregnancy progressed and my body expanded, comfort became the major factor while choosing any ensemble but dresses like this aqua dress remained my favourite.

pregnancy clothes

By Week 39, I was really tired of being pregnant and felt really enormous. This was also the time when kimono trend started and I brought one on a whim but it soon became my favourite not only during the last days of pregnancy but the initial months after having the baby when most women go through a love-hate relationship with their body.

kimono fashion

I never thought I would such a trouble dressing my post-baby self. But truth be told it was (and still is) part of the issue is I never thought it would be so tough losing all the baby fat. Being told to up my calorie intake and to make sure that I take 2100 calories every day in order to nurse my little one well did not bode well with my vanity. But you got to do what you got to do. I did and started exercising as soon as I could. However, to keep my spirits high I brought some lovely pastel tops with clever details like dip-hem that could hide the wreck done by nature and child bearing.

How to wear Pastels

Green became my colour of the year and I was elated that I could fit in this Indian dress gifted by my mum two months post baby.

Indian fashion

The midi became my new found love. Feminine, sophisticated, glamorous yet fun, the midi ticked all the necessary boxes and I would say that there is no way I am going to stop with this silhouette anytime soon. This black lace skirt is my favourite these days.

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I also learnt that when you are dealing with postpartum blues, you need a heavy dose of happy colours like pink. Plus styling is all about creativity so I thought this was the perfect time to breathe some new life to my old clothes.

pink is my favorite color

As soon as fall hit UK, the blanket coat came top on my list. Perfect for nippy weather….

blanket coat style

…And could be used as a humungous scarf with a bright winter coat.

winter fashion coats

Layering a postpartum body, especially when you do not feel the best all the time can be tough, but not impossible as I learnt.

winter fasihon ideas

Every woman loves the LBD and if you are first time mum like me then opt for ones that can be adjusted and has interesting details. I loved my old-new black dress.

midi dress style

Never underestimate the power of classic things like a trench coat that can instantly pep up your mood and put a swing to your walk.

Fall Fashion

Fall Fashion

Floral dresses are also another wardrobe staple perfect when you want that extra boost. A dark floral dress paired with faux fur is a sartorial match made in heaven.

autumn winter fashion

A simple, long cardigan in black and white is another staple that should quickly find a way in your wardrobe. Perfect to hide a platitude of sins and still keep you fashionably ahead.

black and white fashion

black and white fashion

I am not any closer to my pre pregnancy body and I would be lying if I say that I stay positive all the time. There are days when I truly loathe seeing the mirror but most of time I respect my body and the wonderful female form for enduring the challenging process of child bearing and nourishing a new life. Plus my little one is thriving and generally being a happy baby and that is a joy no so-called “perfect size” can give me 🙂

I wish all my readers a Happy New Year. Have a lovely time with your loved ones and may the New Year bring you health, wealth, love, joy and happiness. See you next year.

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“It’s by your side I make home.” 

Hello my beautiful readers, I have been MIA for a while but I have been so swamped of late feeling like deflated balloon depleted of any energy.  However, on a positive note the hubby and I celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary on Saturday. Honestly, if you ask me I still don’t know how I (we??) lasted that long. I am not going to bore you with a long, winding story about how we met and how our love story started but one thing is this–I really do have high expectations when it comes to love and marriage. And when I say high expectations, I do not mean sweeping gestures of romance all the time, splashing cash on each other and other such inane material drivel.

The loveliest couple I have ever met and known is my awesome grandparents. (You can read their story here). This post, on the other hand, is not a long letter confessing my undying love to him but rather a reflection on this institution (you can ridicule it all you want but at the end of the day for me it is about this: would you rather let some stranger hold your hand and your head when you are all old and wrinkly or someone who knows you like shadow??)

you had me at hello

Marriage is a lot of hard work. At times, I wish it came with a manual. Sometimes, it is a slow dance of waltz where you forget the world  and the troubles that life bestows upon you. And there are times when it is a dance with swords where you unleash your anger, your insecurities and your negatives at each other and still are able to get up the next day and dance to a different tune. With each other of course.

My hubby is not my knight in shining armor. Instead, he is someone who gives me wings. He and I both know that I am the Queen B who can handle any hitch life throws and I can do it because of the confidence and faith he shows in me. It is important that couples realise that they are equal. Equally to be patted on back for all the successes and equally to be held responsible for all the pitfalls.

As cliched as it sounds, it is about the small things that makes a whole lot of difference. Marriage is not 24/7 romance but the fact that you can find joy and happiness in the most mundane things whether it is weekly grocery shopping or cooking with each other.

It is important to let go. Women especially need to remember this. (I definitely do), We tend to bottle up every single thing, our anger, a slight, a silly comment and unleash it with a lot of wrath when the opportunity comes. But I am learning that it is important to let go of the trivial because it must have been trivial if it did not kill you and end your world. So letting it go for real is important for your sanity for your better half’s sanity and your relationship.

Never forget self-love or loving yourself. It is not selfishness; the only relation that matters above everything else is the one you have with yourself. It is pure. It is unadulterated. Self love is highest form of worship. My hubby and my sis always teach me this that if I cannot love myself I cannot actually love my loved ones.

The bottom line is there is no magic pill for a happy marriage or relationship. It simply is about loving, understanding and not taking it all for granted 🙂

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