I see you lovingly holding that baby bump, protecting the little life inside, with your warm hands. I see you glowing positively any anxiety well-hidden under the smile. I see you enjoying your pregnancy yet mentally doing the countdown and here are some things I want to tell you. Things I wish I knew.

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  1. From the moment you hold your little person in your hands you will feel love–an all consuming and unparalleled love. You will feel euphoric and you will realise that you don’t need drugs to feel inebriated
  2. You will feel fear; like an unseen wrecking ball is about to hit you and your world. It will turn you into a protective tigress almost overnight
  3. Breastfeeding is extremely hard: don’t berate yourself if you cannot get it right straightaway
  4. While on the topic, don’t think you are horrible mother, if you for some reason cannot or choose not breastfeed
  5. For the first few days you might experience phantom kicks.
  6. On your third or fourth day postpartum, you will cry a lot. You will feel sad for absolutely no reason; you will hate your husband, your in-laws, your friends, the world and yourself. Don’t get scared. Hormones do that to you (if it continues then seek help immediately)
  7. Hormones will continue to make you angry, weepy, anxious, temperamental and sad. Consciously surround yourself with people who understand you and love you no matter what
  8. Sleep while you can because it is going to be a luxury for a long, long time
  9. No matter how great your relationship with your partner was: it will change. You will want their unwavering support
  10. You will be exhausted and raccoon-eyed and you will feel grossly under-appreciated
  11. Motherhood is an exhausting and all-consuming feeling. It will make you vulnerable yet stronger
  12. Don’t be surprised if old friendships break. And take time to make new friends
  13. Guilt will become your middle name (but don’t worry you will be fine)

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The ironical thing about this parenting thing is that, till you become one you are happily in some sort of cloud #9, with absolutely no iota of reality to bring you down. Before baby, the hubby and I used to wonder how some parents just can’t get the hang of their own kids and how they allow them to “let go.”

Our bubble has been broken for good and now as parents we have understood and experienced that it is one HELL of a job. I no longer aim to become “mother of the century” and have no shame in admitting that sometimes I am absolutely rubbish at it and that occasionally (ok, ok regularly) commit some “classic” parenting sins. So, if you would like to feel better about your own parenting skills read on or maybe you would also like to plead guilty.

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Pride:

I had promised myself that I will never be a pushy, tiger mum and that I will take no credit for my daughter’s milestones. But when another mum at rhyme time told me, “wow, your five month is crawling so well.” My joy knew no bound. I think I stood up feeling slightly taller, my nose slightly pointier and my little heart jumping of pure joy. I felt unashamed, pure sense of pride as though it wasn’t my daughter’s crawling but  I have won a Pulitzer Prize or something. Yes, I huffed and puffed till another mum came and shattered my pride to pieces by asking, “so she doesn’t coo in French yet?” Because obviously babies do that.

Wrath:

I am (fine, used to be) a totally Zen person. Even Tibetan monks could’ve learnt from me about being calm and content. These days, simple requests are enough to drive me to insanity. Like when my hubby asks me in the morning totally innocent questions like: “Have you seen my car keys/ wallet/bag?” ALL. HELL. BREAKS.LOOSE. Really, when did I become the treasurer of things? Or do you become one just because you pushed a tiny person out of foof? His nerve, just because he has to go to office and earn our bread and butter. Really, hell has no fury like a wife who is asked about “lost” things.

Gluttony:

When I was breastfeeding, every day I would make a pact with myself to stay away from junk but by 10 AM I used to feel ravenous. Totally natural considering I was being an all night buffet to my lovely little girl, I would eat one (or two, whatever who was counting?) slice of cake without a shred of guilt. So has things improved now that she has weaned off herself? Sometimes, I stuff my face with chocolates sneakily with fridge door still open while she munches on her fruits (ha!!).

Envy:

People think that most mums are envious of those stylish women and their jaw dropping amazing body. No sir. We don’t. I envy anyone who has had six hours of uninterrupted sleep or anyone who can go to the toilet without an audience.

Sloth:

The t-shirt I am wearing today was supposed to be washed yesterday. Ok, ok the day before. Fine, last week. Ever since becoming a mum, “sloth” has become my middle name. I used to be so shamelessly house proud. Needless to say, my cleaning standards have gone down. Considerably down (sob).

Lust:

Lust, really you got to be joking? (hahahah).

Greed:

I really have become slightly greedy ever since becoming a mum. Sometimes, I lock myself in the bathroom as soon as hubby comes home and pretend I am doing my business just to get five minutes to myself. I am amazed at my own greed. 😛

Bottom line is mums (and dads) are not perfect creatures. We all slip up sometimes. As long as you aren’t ignoring your children every single day you are probably doing a great job 🙂
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My pregnant friends often ask me about this. Hence, I decided to post this easy guide. I have added few things, which I missed because I had no idea that it would be important. As a rule of thumb, it is a great idea to organise your hospital bag when you are about 36 weeks because chances are you are too jittery, exhausted and having a major case of baby brains after that. Keep it ready and let the countdown begin.

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For yourself:

An old, comfortable t-shirt dress or loose maxi dress: Labour is messy you don’t need to wear anything fancy to bring out your bundle of joy
Granny knickers: Nobody will care about your lacy Victoria Secret thongs and that includes you and your partner. Just load your bag with some comfy granny (read huge) knickers for birth and immediately afterwards
A light weight cardigan: Hormones have a notorious habit to take you by surprise. One moment you might be sweating profusely and the next you might be feeling chilly. Will come handy to cover those stains too
Massage oil or lotion: Handy if you have to be/ want to be massaged while in labour
Birthing ball: Chances are you won’t be admitted in the hospital till the very end and even then hospitals will have this but keep this in any case (a properly inflated one). Birthing ball was my best friend during those final hours (ok this wont fit your bag but keep it handy)
Books/tablet/music: Chances are you won’t be in ANY MOOD to read or listen to music but it might just come in handy for you and your partner
Socks & slippers: My feet strangely started feeling cold during labour even though it was the hot month of June, socks helped me immensely. Hospital bathrooms aren’t fun carry your own slippers
Dressing gown: Though they will give you this, it is a good idea to carry your own
Prunes, dates or psyllium husk: No one would prepare you for this but going to the bathroom after pushing a tiny person out of you would be the biggest challenge you will face. It is great to up your fibre intake to help you in this Herculean task
Tens machine: Helped me immensely during labour and after childbirth to ease postpartum back ache
Hair ties: You would want to keep your gorgeous tresses in place. Just take my word for this
Snacks & drinks: Labour is an intense process (understatement) you and your partner would need all the energy in the world. Keep nuts, dried fruits, water and isotonic sports drinks handy
A going home outfit: Keep it special but simple. I opted for harem pants and a not so snug t-shirt
Nursing bras/ pads: Even if you don’t plan to breastfeed, this will help you initially
Phone charger: Often forgotten but needed for obvious reasons
Camera: Obviously you want to capture this special moment

For the baby:

Baby suits & vests: Keep about five, just in case you need to be in the hospital
Baby blanket: If it is cold outside
Nappies and wipes: Because they SHOULD go several times
Electric Breast pump: I honestly wish someone had told me that pumping before hand can start the supply without hassle
A light weight cardigan: Again to keep the chill at bay
A snowsuit: For winter babies
Towel/ muslin squares: For cleaning your little person
Formula: Even if you plan to breastfeed, carrying formula can come in handy because it can take some time or days to get the breastmilk supply started
Car seat/Pushchair: To bring the baby home

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When I was pregnant, one of the few things I really, really enjoyed flaunting was my hair. It seemed suddenly the hair Gods had answered my prayers and almost overnight I had long, shiny, strong hair that could give any TV commercials and their models a run for their money. (I kid you not!) However, all good things come to an end and since last month I have been having severe episodes of shedding. So I contacted my friend and hair expert Tuc Le Rojas from Just Gorgeous Hair who has so generously shared her tips and suggestions on how you can take control of your postpartum hair loss situation. You might remember this lovely lady from this post here. Without further ado, here is how to take stock of your hair situation.

With the hair expert

With the hair expert

How is Postpartum hair loss caused and can you prevent it?

Hair loss after pregnancy is the sudden shedding sometimes in clumps that many new mothers experience between 3 to 6 months after they give birth. We lose on average about 100 strands a day but not all at once so you don’t notice so much. Your pregnancy hormones keeps hair from falling out that’s why when you are pregnant your hair looks and feels thick, shiny and beautiful. But all good things must come to an end and that includes your new hair. When those pregnancy hormones drop back to normal the extra hair drops too. Once the nursing ( breast feeding) is over; your hair will grow back to normal again.

Can you tell us how we can control the hair loss?

Although you cannot do anything to prevent it there are steps you can take to help reduce the blow. You can keep your hair healthy by eating well and taking your prenatal supplements post birth too. Be extra gentle during your shedding months to prevent excess hair loss. Shampoo your hair less–reduce it to 2-3 times a week. Always use a good de-tangling conditioner and comb your hair only when the conditioner is on your hair. Use hair bands but not rubber or elastic ones to tie your hair and try not to tie your hair too tight.

How about blow drying and chemical treatments?

Try not to blow-dry your hair frequently or use any chemical based treatments like highlighting, perms, and straightening until the shedding stops.

Will having a hair cut help in postpartum hair loss?

Having your hair cut shorter is a great way to deal with postpartum hair loss as your hair will appear thicker.

When does postpartum hair loss stop and when should one worry? 

It varies from people to people for postpartum hair loss to stop completely. It happens usually within some months (mostly after you stop nursing). Go to your GP if your hair loss is excessive as when associated with other symptoms as it could be a sign of postpartum hypothyroidism.

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Blogging with a demanding infant is certainly one of the biggest challenges I am facing at the moment. I was hoping to do this outfit post/shoot ages ago but something or the other kept me busy.

There are days when the sheer of cycle of feeding, cleaning, soothing her leaves me exhausted to the core. So exhausted, that getting dressed up and going out somewhere to do a shoot is the last thing in my mind. Some days getting even ten minutes all to myself seems like an impossible task and if I do I would rather sleep more. But seeing my little one grow (each day) is the big reward I get at the end of it all. And when she recognizes me and gives me a knowing smile; tiredness is quickly forgotten and I end up marveling at this little human being that I (with a little help from hubby 😉 ) created.

Back to the outfit. Pastels are my perennial favourite—pastel shades are feminine, fun and versatile. Here, I’ve paired a pastel green dip hem top with black leggings .A simple outfit perfect to enjoy a day out  with your little one.  I’ve added a tribal style statement necklace to give this simple ensemble some oomph.

How to wear pastels

 

How to wear Pastels

 

 

Sixty three days postpartum my body is slowly, steadily but surely coping up with the challenges of Motherhood and that for me is the silver lining. 🙂

How to wear Pastels

how to wear Pastels

Top: New Look, Leggings: Next Outlet (similar), Necklace: Gift for MIL, bracelet: Gift from Mum. Sandals: Clarks (similar), Watch: Tissot

Have a great mid-week and see you soon.

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