I was recently featured in Huffington Post, UK and needless to say I was damn chuffed. It feels nice to be part of their amazing parent bloggers’ community. You can read my post here.

I started motherhood and parenting section on this blog to share my heartfelt thoughts, experiences, doubts, anxieties and achievements as a first time mum. Parenting is a tough task; a life-altering experience that completely changes your relationship with your partner, your friends, your extended family and even yourself.

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Image Via Google Images

During the initial days as a first time mum, I felt a range of emotions: anxiety, euphoria, inexplicable fear and even anger. Writing about those emotions and challenges here on this blog was a great way to let go, introspect and move on.

I just hope my readers are able to connect and even guide me through this roller coaster ride as a first time mum.

Thank you for reading J

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I had an extremely productive weekend after a long time. Last Saturday the first ever South Asian blogging event was conducted in London. The event had journalists from BBC, Sky, Media Diversified, UK Asian and Huffington Post as well as experts from Google and WordPress and not to mention all kinds of bloggers.  As a blogger, it was a great experience meeting fellow bloggers and experts and I was glad that I attended the event despite my initial misgivings.

Image via: Migreat

Image via: Migreat

The night before the event, I had a nightmare that I would go there only to find an empty room. Instead, I saw a room packed with South Asian women bloggers. Priya Changela from Migreat, the lady behind the event later said that it was only pure chance that all the bloggers were women. I was really heartened to see so many women bloggers from the same ethnic background like me. It only proved that writing is a medium that breaks the barriers of race and gender. The icing on the cake was that we also learnt some really techy bits that I must confess I would not have known without the event.

Image via: Migreat

Image via: Migreat

Image via: Migreat

Image via: Migreat

  • It is important to build personas.
  • In today’s smart phone obsessed world, mobile is everything. Think mobile. Always.
  • If you dig really deep, Google has all the answers on how to build an extremely successful blog.
  • No matter what keep the conversations going through your posts, your followers, comments and social media.
  • However don’t get bogged down by all this technological shizzle at the centre of it is writing. Honest, heartfelt and hence powerful. French novelist Gustave Flaubert has said, “The art of writing is the art of discovering what you believe,” and I completely identify with this statement. Writing—be it creative writing or news features or about fashion or life—is like catharsis to me. It helps me to deal with my pain, doubt, insecurities as well as celebrate my few achievements.
  • My love for writing began as a kid; when I would spend a lot of time scribbling in my diary. Naturally, I thought of making a career out of it. I love how ideas can be converted into memorable written word (editors are you listening?). Even if one reader says that they liked my post and ideas, I feel an unabashed sense of pride.
  • So take that pen (or your computer) and write; it might just teach you a thing or two about yourself and the world.

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“It’s by your side I make home.” 

Hello my beautiful readers, I have been MIA for a while but I have been so swamped of late feeling like deflated balloon depleted of any energy.  However, on a positive note the hubby and I celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary on Saturday. Honestly, if you ask me I still don’t know how I (we??) lasted that long. I am not going to bore you with a long, winding story about how we met and how our love story started but one thing is this–I really do have high expectations when it comes to love and marriage. And when I say high expectations, I do not mean sweeping gestures of romance all the time, splashing cash on each other and other such inane material drivel.

The loveliest couple I have ever met and known is my awesome grandparents. (You can read their story here). This post, on the other hand, is not a long letter confessing my undying love to him but rather a reflection on this institution (you can ridicule it all you want but at the end of the day for me it is about this: would you rather let some stranger hold your hand and your head when you are all old and wrinkly or someone who knows you like shadow??)

you had me at hello

Marriage is a lot of hard work. At times, I wish it came with a manual. Sometimes, it is a slow dance of waltz where you forget the world  and the troubles that life bestows upon you. And there are times when it is a dance with swords where you unleash your anger, your insecurities and your negatives at each other and still are able to get up the next day and dance to a different tune. With each other of course.

My hubby is not my knight in shining armor. Instead, he is someone who gives me wings. He and I both know that I am the Queen B who can handle any hitch life throws and I can do it because of the confidence and faith he shows in me. It is important that couples realise that they are equal. Equally to be patted on back for all the successes and equally to be held responsible for all the pitfalls.

As cliched as it sounds, it is about the small things that makes a whole lot of difference. Marriage is not 24/7 romance but the fact that you can find joy and happiness in the most mundane things whether it is weekly grocery shopping or cooking with each other.

It is important to let go. Women especially need to remember this. (I definitely do), We tend to bottle up every single thing, our anger, a slight, a silly comment and unleash it with a lot of wrath when the opportunity comes. But I am learning that it is important to let go of the trivial because it must have been trivial if it did not kill you and end your world. So letting it go for real is important for your sanity for your better half’s sanity and your relationship.

Never forget self-love or loving yourself. It is not selfishness; the only relation that matters above everything else is the one you have with yourself. It is pure. It is unadulterated. Self love is highest form of worship. My hubby and my sis always teach me this that if I cannot love myself I cannot actually love my loved ones.

The bottom line is there is no magic pill for a happy marriage or relationship. It simply is about loving, understanding and not taking it all for granted 🙂

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